扎心的实话 Heart-wrenching Truth

Good advice is hard to hear, and good medicine tastes bitter. Some words, though unpleasant to hear, are truly honest truths.

1.Ultimately, everyone is alone. Either your parents, spouse, children, or relatives, they will all leave you in the end, and the only thing that will accompany you is loneliness. Even if they loved you so deeply and how much you relied on them before, that doesn't change the fact. Parents will eventually pass away; children get married and have their own families and careers, leaving little time to be with you; and as for those relatives who can visit you once in a while, that's already a blessing. The one who accompanies you to the end is probably only your spouse, and if you continue on, it might only be yourself.

So, from a young age, a person should learn to be alone and even enjoy it. Loneliness is normal for a person, and only those who can endure loneliness and solitude can calm down to study, feel at ease with their own affairs, and ultimately achieve something great.

2.People are selfish. No matter how they explain or act outwardly, deep down in their hearts, they are selfish and self-centered. This is human nature. We don't need to deny it outright or feel ashamed. Even little children won't share theirdelicious food with others and keep it for themselves. Who taught them to do so?

People are selfish, including yourself. We always consider our own interests. First, we ensure our survival and reproduction needs. Sometimes we even ignore the feelings of others. Understanding this, we won't blame others for being selfish, will understand that emotions and values can only be exchanged in kind, and will learn to strive to improve ourselves instead of begging others or complaining about fate.

3.No one wants you to do better than them. Someone is sad because they lost a shoe, until one day they see someone on the street losing a leg. What is this? Someone has suffered worse things than themselves, and this is something to be grateful for and feel relieved. In conclusion，if you are better off than others，someone will be unhappy； but if you suffer hardships， a group of people will come to comfort you，and perhaps someone will shed a tear for you. But in the end，they will be happy anyway. Of course，this happiness is hidden in their hearts.

Apart from your parents，your children，perhaps your closest relatives，and even those who are truly your loved ones，who truly hopes that you will be well-off？If you are well-off，they will be jealous；if you are in a mess they will mock and criticize，and even stab you in the back.

Understanding these points，you won't be troubled，won't curse the unfairness of the world and human hearts are not what they were in the old days. You will keep striving. Because you already understand that in this world，the only one you can rely on and the only one who can come to you is yourself. The world is cold，full of intrigues，selfish and self-centered，opportunistic，solitary，and all of these are just the normal state of life，like the waxing and waning of the moon，the blooming and withering of flowers. And what you do is to immerse yourself in your own affairs，ignore them，or quietly watch the performance , with a calm heart.

忠言逆耳，良药苦口。有些话尽管不中听，却是实实在在的实话。

一、人终极是孤独的。不论是父母、老伴、子女，还是亲人，最终都会离你而去，而最终伴随你的就是孤独，也无论最初他们有多么爱你，你多么依赖他们。父母年迈，最终会离你而去；子女成家了，也有了自己的孩子和事业，也没有多少时间来陪伴你；而至于那些亲人能够偶尔来看望你一次，也就值得庆幸了。陪伴你走到最后的，大概只有你的老伴了，而再继续走下去，恐怕只有你自己了。

所以，从年轻起，一个人要学会孤独，甚至要享受孤独。孤独才是一个人的正常，能够耐得孤独寂寞的人，才能够静下心来研读，安心感自己的事情，最终才能够成就一番事业。

二、人是自私的。一个人表面上无论如何解释、如何表现，在他的内心深处都是自私的、利己的。这是人的天性，我们不用矢口否认，也不用感到羞愧。连一个小孩子都不肯把好吃的东西给别人，留着自己吃，又有谁教过他这样吗？

人是自私的，包括你自己。我们总在为自己的利益考量, 首先保证自己生存和繁衍的需要，有时甚至会忽略他人的感受。明白了这一点，我们就不会埋怨别人自私，就会懂得情绪和价值只会等价交换，就会学会自己暗暗努力，提升自我，而不会乞求别人甚至怨天尤人。

三、没有人希望你过得比他好。有人丢了一只鞋闷闷不乐，直到有一天在街上看到一个人丢了一条腿。这是什么呢？有人遭受比自己更糟糕的事情，这是一件值得庆幸、值得欣慰的事情了。总之，你若过得比别人好，就有人不快乐；而你若遭受了难处，一大帮人会来安慰你，说不定还有人为你而流一把泪水，可最后他们都会高兴而去，当然这种高兴是藏在心里的。

除了你的父母，你的子女，或许还有你至亲的亲人，还有谁真心希望你过得好呢？你若过得好了，他们便是嫉妒；你若过得一地鸡毛，他们便是冷嘲热讽，甚至落井下石。

懂得了以上几点，你就不会烦恼，大骂世道的不公，人心的不古，你就会不断努力。因为你已经懂得，在这个世界上，能够依靠的、能够新来的，只有你自己。世态炎凉，勾心斗角，自私自利，趋炎附势，形只影单，所有这一些都不过是人生的常态，如阴晴圆缺，花开花落，而你所做的就是埋头干自己的事情，视而不见，或者静静看着那表演，心如止水。