男人要有责任心、自制力和毅力 Men Should Possess Responsibility, Self-control and Perseverance

What is a good man? In my opinion, a good man is one who is responsible, has self-control, and has perseverance. He can step forward at critical moments and draw his sword to fight against the enemy.

A man must first have a sense of responsibility. He should always keep in mind that everything he does concerns his parents, wife, children, brothers, sisters, and other relatives. He should not act on his own will without listening to others' advice. The ultimate result of doing so will only be to make the elderly parents worry, make his wife and children fearful, make his brothers and sisters anxious, and increase others' troubles in vain.

Such a man is selfish. He only considers himself and does not take into account the feelings of others. Once there is a problem and he gets into trouble, he will hang his head in front of his parents and even blame them for being incompetent, not creating much wealth for himself - making himself a rich second-generation; not achieving any official position-making himself a government official second-generation. Because of that, such a man can enjoy the fruits of their efforts without having to work hard.

I have also seen many men who are overweight and very imposing. But I can tell at a glance that such men have no self-control. They drink beer, consume beverages, eat seafood, feast on abundant fish and meat, indulge in excessive eating, stay up late playing games, and how can they not ruin their health? Even their own mouths and their own desires cannot be controlled. How can such a man have any achievements? Without self-control, his life is a mess. In any matter, there is no self-discipline. In the long run, they will become a useless person. Such a man is playing with life, and the result will be that life will also play with him.

If a man wants to do something, he must have perseverance and determination. Otherwise, he will give up halfway and ultimately achieve nothing.

When it comes to perseverance, in the simplest terms, it means enduring hardships. Being able to withstand them, gritting one's teeth, and persisting until the end. This is a long process. One has to endure wind and rain, even endure humiliation, be ignored, and even suffer abuse. Having an indomitable spirit actually means working hard while waiting for opportunities, believing that there will be a time when everything will be beautiful again.

If you observe a man who is responsible, self-disciplined with perseverance, this is a good man. Such a man will surely have outstanding performance and can be good friend with you.

何谓好男人？我认为有责任心、有自制力、有毅力，关键时刻能够挺身而出、抽刀向敌人的人便是好男人。

男人首先要有责任心，要时刻谨记自己所做的一切关乎到父母、妻子儿女，还有兄弟姐妹等亲人。凡事不能一意孤行，听不进别人的劝告，只按自己的意志行事。这样做的最终结果只能是让年迈的父母挂念，让自己的老婆孩子担惊受怕，让自己的兄弟姊妹牵肠挂肚，白白增加他人的烦恼。

这样的男人是自私的，他只考虑自己，而不会顾及他人的感受。一旦出现了问题陷入困境，只会在父母面前耷拉着脸，甚至埋怨父母无能，没有给自己创下多少财富——使自己成为富二代；也没能混个一官半职——使自己成为官二代。因为那样，这样的男人就可以坐享其成而不用努力了。

我还见到过许多男人，大腹便便，很是威风。可我一眼便知，这样的男人丝毫没有自制力。啤酒、饮料、海鲜、大鱼大肉，胡吃海喝，饮食无度，熬夜游戏，又怎能不把身体搞坏了？连自己的嘴，自己的那点欲望都管不住，这样的男人又何谈有什么出息呢？没有自制力，生活就是一团糟，在任何事情上都没有规律，不知道节制，长此以往，便会变成了一个废人。这样的男人就是在游戏人生，结果必然是人生也会游戏他自己。

一个男人要想做点事情，必须要有恒心和毅力，否则半途而废，终会一事无成。

说到有毅力，说白了就是要吃苦，能够挺得住，咬紧牙关，一直走到最后。这是一个漫长的过程，要风餐露宿，甚至要忍受屈辱，遭人白眼甚至遭受欺辱。有不屈不挠的精神，实际上就是一边努力，一边等待机会，相信终有山花烂漫的那一天。

如果你观察到一个男人，有责任心、有恒心毅力而又非常自律，这就是好男人，而这样的男人一定会有不俗的表现，也值得你深交。